I recently had a few family members block me from social media and one that tore me apart publicly. It was painful. I went to my counselor and cried. But then I read in 3 Nephi. It was there that I was taught how to handle these “earthly people problems”.
3 Nephi 12: 23 and 24
Therefore, if ye shall come unto me, or shall desire to come unto me, and rememberest that thy brother hath aught against thee-
Go thy way unto thy brother and first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come unto me with full purpose of heart, and I will receive you.
That “Therefore” word in verse 23 suggests that you must read verse 22 to understand the whole picture.
Verse 25 is also important. It’s the “Agree with thine adversary quickly while thou art in the way with him, lest at any time he shall get thee, and thou shalt be cast into prison.
3 Nephi 12: 5 And blessed are they meek, for they shall inherit the earth.
A RS teacher taught us recently that it’s really all about Meekness. Everything rests on Meekness. Don’t go rolling up your sleeve getting ready to throw a punch, even if it’s rightly deserved.
3 Nephi 14: 4-5 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother: Let me pull the mote out of thine eye—and behold , a beam is in thine own eye. Though hypocrite, first cast the beam out of thine own eye; and then thou shalt see clearly to cast the mote out of brother’s eye.
3 Nephi 18: 34 And I give unto you these commandments because of the disputations which have been among you. And blessed are ye if ye have no disputations among you.
4 Nephi 1:13 and 15. And it came to pass that there was no contention among all the people, in all the land; but were mighty miracles, wrought among the disciples of Jesus.
And it came to pass that there was no contention in the land, because of the love of God which did dwell in the hearts of the people.
Even as I write this, feelings about 1 company I worked for have come up. It’s been over 2 years, but still this one person and maybe 2 cause me to want to go online and complain about them- not the Lords way.
Here is what I have learned from these verses.
- Pray to love people so there will be no contention.
- If there is no contention you will see miracles.
- Get the beam out of thine own eye first.
- Go to your brother and be reconciled until him.
- Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth.
I have to admit that I’m feeling like a hypocrite right now. My feelings have nothing to do with my family that dissed me or the company that was a jerk, but instead that I know the gospel well, yet I have no trust in the Lord or my family. I feel that I just need to keep my mouth shut and keep the hurt and pain to myself, so I don’t break any more people and especially myself.
Protection and Self-Preservation are the words of the day. I do not want to go to prison.
But the Big Message is that regardless of me if you want to come to Christ, you must first reconcile yourself to others in your life.